hi debbie,
i was thinking about your situation and that you were surprised he didn’t care how upset he had made you.. this will sound a bit brutal but from my experience they couldn’t care less about our feelings… my husband was absolutely and completely heartless throughout active addiction, he looked at me like he hated me and speaking to him now, in that frame of mind he was in.. he did hate me at that time. he made me want to die, and he knew it, and he couldn’t give a shit…. he just wanted me to shut up and go away so he could use…. if anything the more upset i was the more he hated me and used that as an excuse to take more drugs… he didn’t care about my feelings, he didn’t care about the kids feelings either… it took months for him being completely clean to really start to acknowledge all this too… months and months.. the drugs make them into a heartless shell of a person… this is the reality of loving an addict… it’s horrible and ugly and painful… sorry to be so brutal x