Hi RedFox, he was ready to lose his job, no job = no flat=no car= no money to clear mountain of debt.
He wasn’t attending work, hanging with gf who was negative influence ie drinks, drugs, mental health issues. Thankfully, they parted, we helped with the debt, he joined AA and CA groups.
He has relapsed a few times but this is the longest spell now.
He can’t drink alcohol anymore or hang out with his regular friends or this will trigger him. It’s complete abstinence from booze.
He told me he needed to know he was loved, but only hate what trouble the addiction was causing.
You have to love them unconditionally, but at the same time let them know that some situations are unacceptable. Boundaries I guess.
Every day is a battle for them, its so hard stopping this evil drug. But what’s the alternative?
I pray every day there gets the strength to get through it.
Sending you hugs and prayers,
Lx ❤