Reply To: Cocaine Addiction – Feeling lost, alone and pretty helpless

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faithnotfear
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wow! my husband could have written exactly what Jamesb just wrote! he felt he had crossed that line into no man’s land and as far as he was concerned everything was past saving….by keeping it quiet he was holding off the inevitable… but yep! he got caught… i didn’t at that point know if the marriage could survive but i could only view him as a human that I loved, who was suffering. i put him in touch with ca immediately and he turned it round.

i wish he’d had the courage to come to me before he got caught, and so does he. he was afraid that everyone he loved would turn their backs on him. thing was we all knew there was something wrong with him… we just didn’t know what on earth was going on! everything fell into place when the truth started coming out – i was literally kicking myself as looking back it was bloody obvious!

i appreciate you might not have an easy relationship but if he loves you and the kids surely he will see as i did – the best thing to do is give the suffering addict the space to try and get better.

if you really cannot speak to him, speaking to a friend/family member/ca will likely be the most courageous and best thing you can do.

ca really do wonders for so many people, yes… it is spiritual (god of your own understanding- could be Christian/muslim/mother nature/the universe/father xmas/anything)… but they are so supportive and welcoming, and they are all recovering from addictions so understand like nobody else can.

as for recovering your own self by taking the drug, that’s an illusion – and it’s making you ill! bloody hell… my husband has a whole new lease of life since stopping… everything feels great! food tastes good again! sleep is sweet and precious! he barely slept for 2 years! there is so much life to be had after active addiction.

if you want out it is possible xx

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