Hi James, how are you doing? How’s your recovery going? Hope it’s going well. Thank you for your reply, so you didn’t feel differently towards her when in active addiction? I ask this as I feel how can someone still love someone the same but hurt them so bad, i also know this is the harsh reality of addiction. You say you never felt guilt, did you feel shame? My ex would apologise before he disappeared and say “sorry I f****d up again” is this normal he says as soon as he took the drug he knew he messed up and what the consequences would be? Now he’s completely cut me off after a relapse before Christmas hasn’t been in touch with me or the kids for 3 weeks now I think he’s lost he’s job but not in a good place. I’ve rescued him from rock bottom before and it hasn’t got me anywhere he’s got back on he’s feet than back to using. I have tried everything offering advice, support, trying to have talks about it he’s very defensive and shuts down just says I can do it myself, i think he has now learnt he can’t. Did you have a rock bottom? X
