Hi James, I came on here today because of feeling hurt and at a loss towards my husband. I have to say your words helped me. Its so hard to live with an addict and at times it just hurts my brain – but what you say and how you write it makes sense. And although I know all that it was good to read it.
The part where you said you didn’t feel guilty for what you said was interesting. It all is part of it. That an argument is never worth having and finding a way to deal with his behaviour that keeps everyone safe is truly the only answer.