Hi Tory, so sorry to read your story. Your are not alone there are lots of us on here who are in the same position with a loved one who’s addicted. It helps to come on here & vent and share your story, so your in the right place. It’s certainly a shock when you first realise they have a problem that’s for sure that will take some time to accept and sink in and that’s totally normal. It’s also a rollercoaster of emotions living with someone who’s in active addiction as you seem to know all to well with how your life is at the moment. My advice to you would be to firstly speak to him about he’s addiction see if he would be open to getting help explain how it’s affecting you all. If you get no where with that & you can’t live apart due to certain reasons not allowing it ie mortgage etc. I would suggest alanon its support for the people who have an addict in their lives they will give you tools to cope and tell you what is helpful for you. If he refuses to get help it will certainly get worse before it will get better, and you can’t help him he has to want to help himself. Just concentrate on you & the kids and maybe look at how boundaries are important too especially when living with an addict. Hope this helps x
