Hi Bugs, welcome to the forum where everyone here has a loved one with addictions.
Thank you for sharing your story and I’m sorry to read that your son’s behaviour is causing you distress.
My son is 29 and has dabbled with drugs since 14yrs, so I can relate to everything you’re going through.
I wish I had all the answers for you, but I wanted you to know that people here understand.
I think at this age you need to be setting him boundaries, what’s not acceptable etc. It is your home and he needs to respect it.
I know Adfam homepage offer advice and support also Drugfam. The Icarus trust posts here too.
I joined the Theresa thread here, we’re all mums with sons with addictions and the ladies are all very supportive and understanding. It’s good to know that you can chat to others in similar situations.
It’s difficult to support your son until he realises he has a problem and seeks support. Please look after yourself and others in the family in the meantime.
Sending you hugs, keep in touch.
Lx ❤