Sadly I’m also in the same camp and have been for 15 years. My wife’s alcholism is slowly killing her. She typically drinks 3 to 4 bottles of wine a day, everyday and will start sneaking drinks not only through the night (hidden wine bottles in her bedside cabinet) but from the moment she wakes up until she crashes out asleep on the couch in the evening. In some respect I’m past caring what happens and given up hope she will change as I have tried many times to support her but to no avail. I know unless someone wants to change they won’t so I’ve given up trying as it becomes sooo draining. I have 2 wonderful kids however I know her behaviour is taking a toll on us all. She recently had a test that showed liver function abnormalities, so my fear is cirrhosis has started as everyday i notice her physical and mental health is deteriorating, though she is still in denial she has an issue.
You never know what hand life is going to deal you, you’ve just got to play it out and try to look after yourself through the craziness and enjoy what you do have. Sometimes it’s the small wins that count.