Hey
I’m really sorry to hear that,
He sounds the same, my partner has just turned 30, you wouldn’t know that though, when we met he had it all going for him, he dabbled in cocaine, weed and Mandy but only weekends and he was a manager for a big firm.
When lockdown came he had nothing better to do so turned to cocaine, then tried weed to get himself off it but it didn’t work and then to Mandy and beans (ecstasy).
On cocaine he would literally turn on me, all night rambling away happily but as he came down he would loose the plot and start putting me down but it would always end in a huge row because there was no stopping him as his brain wouldn’t let him.
He would go stay at his mums every few weeks after the biggest rows.
I told her in the end that he was using but she found it hard believing me, she knew it was true because I told her all the signs but she felt like it was her fault.
He spent most of last year living back at home and his outbursts turned to her, he said the most disgusting stuff.
Thing is, he thought he could just live at her house and use as much as he liked, always making excuses for still being awake in the morning,
He hid his baggies in beer cans so she wouldn’t see…I wish she had just called him out because he would have felt so embarrassed!.
I think getting caught is probably the only shock my other half may get that would shock him into sorting himself out, right now he thinks he can talk his way out of anything.
He also drives while he’s using, and always seems to get away with it. It’s the one thing that used to worry me because it stays in their system so long he surely must be dangerous all the time as he was using most nights.
Unfortunately if he has friends that use he will always have someone offering and giving him that urge, I’ve had to give up on my relationship because his best friend has no other friends and is constantly offering to buy ‘tickets’ and spend nights locked away in their bedrooms getting high and drunk chatting about memories instead of growing up. It’s crazy how much alcohol you can drink on cocaine, they would make their way through bottles of vodka and crates of beer.
Mine missed most of my pregnancy, he was high the morning I gave birth and he missed her 1st birthday all because he was with that friend off his face.
The only thing I wish is that my one’s mum would come and spend time with me and our baby so he can see that it’s him that’s missing out and has a problem. Unfortunately I’ve heard nothing from either of them and it makes me sad that his actions have stopped our little girl spending time with her nanny, he gets angry when she speaks about us, as if I’m causing problems but I just want him to see what is right in front of his face, he won’t get this time back and he’s stopping her having a relationship with her granddaughter too.
Xxx