Ahhh this is such a hard one for me because I’m commenting on posts from the perspective of a recovering cocaine addict so I’ve been in the situation your boyfriend is in right now. Its like a moral conflict for me. Not wanting to “snitch” on your partner because I was at one point just as bad as him etc but equally I feel like people like yourself and my Mrs (who left me due to my addiction) deserve so much better.
I can’t tell you definitely of course but I will say this…..
It’s very rare a Cocaine addict will be able to drink without doing gear.
Its very rare a recovering addict or anyone who isn’t doing something they shouldn’t be would still be up until 6am
It’s also very rare that someone who wasnt hiding something would have numbers saved to their phone under false names.
The best advice I can give you is to talk to him. Safe guard yourself but also try to be understanding and supportive if you can.
All addicts lie. We can’t help it. We have to so we can continue with what we are trying to do and as long as an addict can get away with using 9 out of 10 times they will.
You clearly care for him deeply so he is lucky to have you. When he isnt using I’m sure hes a great guy. Try and bring it up when you think he is sober and tell him how your are feeling how its effecting you.
Also maybe tell him to come on here and talk to a few of the guys who have been through the same thing.
Alot of the time there’s so much more going on deeper down than just the addiction to a substance.
Communication is key in any relationship so don’t bottle anything up. Talk to him and if you need support we are all here for you x