I know what you mean, one day I’m toughening up and as you say detaching but then they hit a low and you instantly feel for them and want to help but nothing we do or say will help , just think of it like this ,when your struggling is he coming to get you out of it ? You have struggled and your getting there on your own , you should be so proud of yourself, just continue focusing on you and the family and let him carry on his way until he decides he needs to sort life out x hope you ok sending big hug
