It’s absolutely awful been in this situation, Iv been here before when he’s been “my ex” and Iv been drawn back in, mainly feeling sorry for him and thinking about the “sober partner” and forgetting about the “drunk Partner” I need now to stick to this. He’s an intelligent man, in his last year of doing a degree at 47 yrs old ! He went into education after I encouraged him that he was more than capable. GCSEs through to degree and Iv been there throughout it all with these episodes every few months and picked up the pieces. God knows if he will finish his degree as these last few months are crucial, but not my problem now and that’s what I need to keep thinking. Have a look at my post from a year ago with my recent update.
When he comes out of this episode which could be a few weeks or 6 months I need to not be drawn in again. I feel im too old for this now and need someone in my life who loves and respects me. I’m 48 and need out now or before I know it I’ll be 58 then 68 and my life has gone in a flash. Just so hard, friends and family do mean well but just don’t understand what it’s like to love an addict.