I’m also struggling to just be there, as if I’m supportive his selfish side just immediately tries to take advantage. offer one lift as you see they have an appointment they need to get to, all of a sudden they think you have the time and money to run them round everywhere; offer to make them a cup of tea as you can see they have had a hard day and it’s a small gesture , the next thing they can’t even make themselves a hot drink they expect you to, they literally become totally dependent if you support in anyway which is really hard to avoid when you are a naturally caring person who literally hates to see people having a hard time. I would help a stranger if I could see their struggle and knew of a way to help so for me this is totally out of character to have to act in this way.
