Ah I see that’s a shame for your daughter.
No, well so far it’s not like that. the kids are happy and healthy and I don’t know how much more careful I could be so far as he’s their dad so he is involved when possible, even if he never saw them again there would still be an emotional risk to them from that so I am doing what best I can. they are safe and well. I guess its different scenarios and they always have me around. There aren’t any major concern in that sense it was more for me personally that I feel sad that if there wasn’t any substance abuse involved that he could be a better dad. And mainly from that I have that view as I had a parent who had an alcohol issue so I know personally how it feels but I also know from people when I was younger who had the seemingly ‘perfect family’ growing up they didn’t turn out any better and with any less issues than anyone else. that’s why I have the laid back view of its a part of life that some people will 100% be there all the time for you and some just won’t, that is a part of life naturally without any substances being involved.