I agree with you, it kills the trust so much. Not that it would make anything easier to have to be in a relationship with an addict but if they were honest and up front about it, the trust would still be there and If they were to become clean then there could be hope. But it’s not that way unfortunately.
Thankfully my ex partner was never verbally abusive calling me names, but would definitely start an argument if I bought up how things were making me feel, that argument that she turned it into then “allowed” her to storm off and use, and it would be my fault as to why she left! The blame is very easily reversed unfortunately.
There is no amount of love we can show
Or give them to make them give up or get on the road of recovery unless they are truly ready!
When it turned to crack, it got horrendous, the lies, the arguments, the secretiveness, not turning up, going off places all the time, I mean this was all around with coke, but when it turned to crack, all this ramped up drastically.