I’m really sorry to hear about your situation, waiting for housing is no joke. I have to agree with you that dispite mine saying he doesn’t use every day and he still runs a business (which to be fair just involves laying in bed replying to emails) a 20 year cocaine use must have a massive impact on his brain, how it functions and deals with emotions.
He seems very aggitated when he doesn’t get his own way and is putting intense pressure on me to move him into my new home. My parents and friends would be mortified as they know he uses every weekend. He’s saying to me that I need to give him a chance and that he needs stablility to make changes……I feel incredibly guilty for not wanting him to move in but I’ve only ever experienced stable relationships and at 50 yrs old I don’t want this to be may life story