Hi mate, I hope you’re okay.
I’m so sorry to hear about your son and it pulls on my heart strings because I know that my parents where just as worried as you are now when i told them about my addiction too.
I’m a 30 year old recovering cocaine addict so hopefully I may be able to shed some light on some things for you.
If you don’t mind though if it isn’t too personal to get an understanding there’s things that would be huge factors so can I ask…
Roughly how old is your son? Is he working or at college etc
Does he have a circle of friends who you think all do it too? Most of the time you’ll find for example a group of lads all start having a go at the pub at the weekend but then 1 or 2 of that group end up developing addiction.
If he is working, is he holding down a job okay or is that suffering due to the gear? Or if at school is he doing okay?
Do you know of any financial problems he may have? Almost everyone me included end up with huge money problems no matter how well you’re paid because of it.
Any relationship or anything? If so do you think she knows ?
All of those things are massively Important to try understand the bigger picture. You said he is having dark thoughts and I can only imagine that’s because the impact the addiction is having on the rest of his life.
I’ve been there and although it took me to get to a point lower than o ever thought possible, with time things are looking up.
Il share with you anything I can that may help you and your boy.
Any questions you want to ask me also feel free. I’ll be straight up and honest.
Take care and stay strong mate