unfortunately they will always carry the burden of guilt and shame, all they can do about it is understand they weren’t in their right minds and continue to make amends to those they hurt… my husband is only a year or so in but he does lots of nice things with the kids to make up for them missing out on having a loving and present daddy ????
he does quite often cry for what he has done and i don’t think he’ll ever get over the guilt and shame.
I’m not sure I’ll get over what he put me through – we just learn to live with this burden and muddle along as best we can.
I think he might need therapy one day too.
At least our kids are okay x