My husband accused me of all sorts, and put cameras front and back… we also had a tremendous row as i refused point blank to have them indoors. Unfortunately it’s par for the course.
As for telling a family member or friend… you’ve done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of. You need support. I never told anyone about his behaviour during the addiction period, but the day i found out i made him tell his family and i started telling mine. I’ve not told many as it hurts to tell people, but i needed at least a few people around me knowing what our family was facing. They were so much more understanding than i expected.
I can’t help much more than i already have but i would say again, i recommend you try calling ca. It can’t do any harm, as it sounds like you’re in hell already.
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