Hun when you look back loads will make sense it does with me it’s an absolutely horrendous thing to go through we’ve been lied to and blind sided by the one person we trusted the most x
You sound like you have a sensible head on your shoulders which is amazing because I was in denial for too long which didn’t help x
I’ve read up loads on enabling etc it all makes sense , non of this is our fault tho we are living with the consequences of it daily x please come on here to vent or for advise it really does help x take care my lovely x