Hi Debc, thank you for your reply.
He drinks at the weekend, normally just one night but like i said, that turns into ALL night..until 7/8am…and like you said, the two go hand in hand… (for him). I can have a glass of wine or 2 with dinner and go to bed. He seems to be party mode or nothing. What really bothers me is that he doesnt seem to even want company. It’s alone, all night taking coke by himself. I just don’t understand it.. i appreciate you being harsh so please don’t apologise. I need another opinion on the situation as i can’t talk to friends or family. They have no idea. He was worse during lockdown (sometimes 3 or 4 nights a week). So he thinks because he has cut down, this is totally fine.. and often blames me for starting an argument if i bring it up