Hi Debbie,
Unfortunately unless you are living it, you have no idea. You can’t forget the man you fell in love with, thats a personal feeling, and everyone else won’t feel that, so whilst they are thinking rationally and logically, its not their life.
I would hang on to the good times. Its like a child who has an absent parent, and they hang off every small moment they have with that person because they’re often apart from them. Its not the same, but its the analogy I used to think about. Because if any of my friends were going through what I was, then I’d be telling them the same as they’re telling us right. All they see is the pain you are in, and their answer is simple. Except its far from that.
I’m slowly rebuilding my trust with my husband in my own head. Its taken a while, but I can see I have the man I love back again, and cocaine is like the ‘other woman’, the enemy in this story.
Have you heard from your husband? I know he’s ashamed, but only he can fix this, and you can support him, if thats what you want then you can offer that, with boundaries.
xx