Hi
It’s so good and helpful to speak with you both. I really appreciate it and yes I would be offering the same advice if any friends were going through this but like you say they’re not living in it. I haven’t heard from him as such but we are both on Strava and he has sent me heart symbols when I uploaded a cycle ride. So I guess he is thinking of me even though he made it absolutely clear that he couldn’t come back as all he had bought to me was heartache and misery. Also we were supposed to be going on a trip of a lifetime to Africa for 3 weeks at the beginning of July and the balance is due beginning of May so I don’t know whether to hope that we may still go or cancel it. So depressing or maybe suggest we still go. One thing though is you both say that you have the person back that you loved but I really don’t know if he’s been on it since we met so perhaps I don’t even know the real him as we have only been together for 4 years x