Hi,
I didnt want to read and run, I’ve been where you are, and thankfully my husband is now 2 years clean, but I totally relate.
I used to say ‘if the day ended in a Y it would be a reason’, I’m also sure many of his mates had about 7 birthdays a year…. theres always a reason, an excuse and a justification, as much for themselves. My husband didnt have an off when it came to drink, he does not drink at all now either, I dont think he had a drink problem as such, but the two went together for him.
Dan is a great person to talk to, because I’ve only been in your position, not the addicts.
Only you know if you can live with it, after many years of it, I couldn’t but mine cheated on me when he was on it too, he was horrible to live with because he didnt really want to be at home, because I was the enemy and Coke was his friend.
I dreaded social invites, and would be thinking, what would it be like to be with someone who just had a few beers, had a laugh and called it a night…..
You arent alone x