Thanks everyone for the replies , there is a CA meeting on at the weekend I’ll say it to him later in the week , his also booked in for some assessment to see how to get better I think .. but his used since he was 17 , but as I said never really questioned it too much as I didn’t know him before he had got clean with a respectable job etc. so this is such a shock for me.. feel very naive now .. hoping it ll just go away ! Like if he hadn’t told me I would of just thought he was going through a midlife crisis or turning into a grumpy angry man.. now I feel like I’m going to be watching him like a hawk . I’ve taken all his bank cards from him he requested me do to this , and blocked his dealer who he has disguise as a friend ! He even had a kid same age as my kid and he use to use them having a play date to get his drug I guess .. but then I find out his mum and brother knew this guy was his dealer 20 years ago and was never a mate , like hello why would they not mention this to me .. also he was getting drug from another old mate I’ve asked him not to see him again either to which he has said ok .. but he called him a mate how is he a mate if his giving him drugs knowing he has 4 young kids !
I’m hopeful atm but I’ll keep you all posted .
Whenever he talked about drugs in the past he would say they were fun and he had a great time , I did use to think why isn’t he saying they are awful things and they could ruin lives , now I know cause he was still using ! I worry for our kids with that sort of attitude .. Christ have so much to talk about with him , don’t know where to start as I rather just bury my head in the sand …
Reading all these posts and every Google article on cocaine addiction I’m learning alot I never knew , what an evil drug !!!