So tonight my husband informed me that his boys are coming down this weekend and I was totally surprised as we hadn’t yet talked about things. Anyway I mentioned that we hadn’t talked and perhaps we could have a few hours to talk about things at the weekend and then received a text from him to say basically that he couldn’t put his boys through anymore trauma and if there was going to be friction or worse and sorry but he couldn’t risk this occurring as they are part of him. Firstly I was stunned that he had invited them down with everything that has happened and also that he thought it would be me that would be causing the problem. I replied to say that perhaps we should talk on Thursday as he is working from home that day and that there would be no judgement on my part and that I just want to understand and help in any way I can. The reply was that I was being degrading and that he didn’t need any help basically implying that he doesn’t have a problem even though I have forgiven him at least 6 times where he has promised me he wouldn’t touch it again. I think I am in shock and really don’t know how or where to go from here. Any advice?? xx
