Hi Debbie,
I hope you are ok sweetheart – well I know you wont really be. I hate to say this, and please someone else chirp in! But I think he is in total denial, and he actually expects you to be ok with him lying about something like this.
His reaction is deflection, instead of facing up to the issue, his response is to take himself away from you, to punish you and to put the blame back to you for daring to suggest you discuss anything! because you shouldn’t be telling him what to do or not do (in his eyes). Its gaslighting, pure and simple – google it! I had it with mine, they punish you by deflecting their own screw ups!
Huge hugs x