Hi Debbie, i hope you are ok , I agree with Ash it sounds like his in total denial that he has an issue and I don’t think there is anything you can do or say at the moment that will change his mind, however I can’t give much advice as I’ve only known about my partners use since last week as I think he realised he was about to lose everything house me the kids everything .. so I’m taking this one day at a time and happy with his attitude about it at the moment but I know there’s still along road ahead . I’m not sure what I’d do if I had found out and he was in denial , wel I know the right thing to do would be to just pack us all up and leave . But that’s a lot easier said than done.
I think back now how naive I was , he would stay up till 4/5am ‘watching movies’ and I remember been suspicious and creeping downstairs to catch him doing I don’t know what and sometimes he would be in the kitchen looking a bit shady and would say just getting some water or something like that and me would say ‘ok hun night’ ! I’m thinking maybe I’ve always known but I was in denial , Christ the lies they tell to hide it, not sure when I’ll be able to properly trust him again now that I know !