Thank you Ash. That’s what I think is going to happen too. Like the way he has already twisted it round to being my fault for not talking last weekend and that now his boys are down this weekend which as I said I am shocked about as we haven’t resolved the situation. That it is my fault that I want to ruin the weekend with them by asking if we could talk for a couple of hours and that I didn’t talk last weekend as my daughter was here and I wasn’t prepared to ruin that weekend but I am prepared to ruin the weekend with his sons. I have absolutely no intention of causing friction when they are here and was going to approach the conversation in a non-judgemental manner and yes I am almost at the point of enabling him for a quiet life but I just know I don’t want to be married to an addict. I am also worried that the longer I stay married to him the more claim he will have on my finances as he has nothing to give and he did mention the last time that we split that he would be entitled to something from me. I am worried too as he took coke with his older son when he was last here and stayed up until the early hours with him and he coming again this weekend. I so wish he would just tell me the whole truth about his habit and finances and get it all out in the open but I guess he is too embarrassed or as you say has this little devil on his shoulder xx
