Hi Debbie,
I hate to say, but I dont think you bringing it up will achieve anything.
Maybe you need to just tell him what your worries/concerns are, and explain why you can’t live this way. He either gets it, or he doesnt, and if he doesnt then thats disrespectful to you, as his wife. I’m sure he will play it down, but if its a problem for you, then its a problem.
You are going about everything the right way, in terms of being non confrontational, not losing it, remaining calm, but he is taking the p…. and you didn’t sign up for this.
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