Hey Debbie,
Well done for having the chat, it was very brave of you.
I’ll be frank, from what you’ve written, he is absolutely taking the mickey. From what you have said, I think he is playing down his use of coke. He thinks that if he says you can test him anytime that you probably wont, or if you do he’ll have an excuse and he can get away with it.
I’m trying to work out why he told you he took a photo of your bank accounts, sometimes addicts double bluff you by admitting they’ve done something, but then using it to justify the craziness to themselves. Like, ‘you want to know what i’m doing, well I know what you’ve got’. This all rings alarm bells to me, he says he thinks you think he’s a gold digger, well as you have money and he doesn’t he probably is!!
He seems to be walking all over you. He wont promise to stop, but he will tell you when he does it…. what is that for? To ease his guilty conscience? I promise you, he wont tell you every time he does it, and if you catch him out he’ll have accidentally forgot because it was only a tiny bit or whatever.
Oh Debbie, I wish I knew how to fix this for you, but I think you need to be a bit selfish here, and think about yourself, and your confidence, and your life xx