Hiya, thank you for your response, this is really sad to hear, what a very sad reality you have lived.
You do not have to apologise for being negative, i absolutely appreciate your response and advice.
My eyes are still a little half closed, half open with it all. One boundary I have put in place for myself is that I wont tolerate any theft from me or my home, not that it makes it any better that he has clearly stolen from his work place, but I think in my head I feel that with that I do not have all the facts, I can’t be sure of the situation, but if it was from me personally then I would be more sure about things (she says, knowing shes not sure about anything)
I think I am not at the stage of giving up on him yet, but I do know in my mind that there will be a point that I will if things do not change drastically and I am under no illusion that I am the one who can change them, its got to come from him or I can absolutely see him in the same position as your ex within years and that would be so sad, I am just sorry that is your reality now.
I genuinely do thank you for your story and comments.
Lola x