also that bit about him telling you when he does it… what?? how would that work??
so what.. he says debbie, im thinking of doing drugs tonight/took drugs last night.. what on earth are you meant to say to that?
oh that’s great, thanks for telling me (brackets your permitting him, therefore it’s your responsibility for the drug use, not his) ..
or … would you go with a gut response and get accused of moaning, nagging, being a killjoy… all that usual addict nonsense that they then use as a springboard to go off and use yet more drugs. (obviously your fault again!)
I know some relationships will tolerate and deal with active addiction and if it works for them then that’s great. i would never slate someone for trying to maintain a relationship if that’s what they want to do.
however i dobwonder how happy they really are. are they actually dying inside? what about the behaviour of a person in active addiction… they’re generally not pleasant to be around (understatement!)… what if you have kids? is it really a good environment, im not sure.
and… it kills me greatly to know and try to come to terms with the fact that i lived in such appalling conditions, i would never knowingly have put my poor kids through that. good god No!
Never Again.
i hope it never comes to that huh ????
debbie, ive rambled on long enough, i really wish you all the strength and hope he treats you kindly this weekend xxx