Hi everyone. I know this thread is probably very old now… but I need some help please.
I’m a single mum with no real family support. My son has been using cocaine on and off for about 4-5 years now. He’s 22 years old.
Recently it’s got really bad. He’s doing it nearly every night. He’s been owing dealers too.
He’s had a job for about 6 months now, but recently the work just isn’t there. He’d only do cocaine at the weekend if he had work in the week.
I think I’ve tried everything. I got him into an outpatient drug centre. Where they would only give patients a blood test once a week, which I can do at home. And he saw a counsellor once a month. He stopped going.
I’ve got him a psychologist, psychiatrist and a talk therapist. None of those seemed to help.
I’ve tried the hard line with him, the soft approach, I’ve even tried to ignore it.
I’ve tried to encourage him to do some sort of sport. He went boxing for a while.
He’s just started going out with a girl that he’s known for a while. She is a non drug user. My son has said if I let her come round at weekends then he’ll stop using. If not then he’ll keep using.
I don’t know what to do. I have refused this idea so far as I don’t think he’ll stop using when he’s not with her. They can’t be together 24/7. Also I don’t want my home to be used as a knocking shop, if you’ll excuse the expression. I don’t want to be held to ransom.
My home is only 44m2 so it’s not as though they or I can escape anywhere. I don’t go out much at all.
I just don’t know what to do about anything anymore. I’m worried and stressed constantly and I have to work.
I would be very grateful for any advice.
Thank you