Hey Dazzle
Oh, I’m sorry that you are going through this too.
It’s an exhausting cycle. I don’t think anyone, including the addict, understands or takes into account how utterly soul destroying and destructive it is… continually getting your hopes up and trying to help them and it failing and then them using again and repeat etc.
I’m glad to hear how much better people feel for having separated and living separately as, to some extent, I’m pinning my hopes on this being the case for me and our child. The idea of being able to wake up and not tread on eggshells, of being financially separate and eventually debt free and secure, of being able to live in a smoke and drink free home… sounds like heaven and it’s what’s keeping me going.