Hi Chloe,
I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation. It’s very frustrating as you try to help, but as you say, they are so locked into this battle they have with alcohol. It’s the addiction, it turns them into horrible, nasty people we don’t recognise any more. This truly isn’t your mum, it’s the addiction.
My son was the same, nothing was more important than his next drink or fix. Makes them selfish and mean .
Please contact one of the counselling services on this homepage or Drugfam. They should help, every case is different I suppose.
My son just needed to know we loved him , no matter what.
Ultimately, it’s down to them to make the changes Chloe .
In the meantime, find time for yourself when you are able. This is really important to avoid any more mental stress you don’t need.
I also want you to know there’s light at the end of the tunnel- my son is currently 11months clean after a really bad experience and he got support from AA and CA groups.
Your mum needs to want this for herself, first and foremost.
Take care of yourself, Chloe
Sending hugs
Lx ❤️