I know the things that they say hurt but none of it is how they truly feel. If you read the posts from the ex addicts they talk about regrets and how deliberately horrible they would be in order to start an argument and that in their twisted reality gave them an excuse to go using cocaine. They will try anything as an excuse to why they have to use it.
We all have those moment of feeling we hate them or our kids hate them or someone else should hate them and that’s another sad thing is that it also turns us in to people we’re not as we have to be cold and heartless to get through this way of living.
There’s no way I would cover up from his family now. I’m just open about it as the sneaky addict side of them would lie or even just mislead to make situations out to be your fault or find excuses for everything. Once other people know the situation it’s easier for them to help or be more understanding. I know it’s embarrassing but it helps if you have someone you can talk to. You don’t have to take any of their advice BUT when you are being gaslighted/blamed for everything, misled it helps to see how a person who hasn’t been tricked by them would see things.
It’s always interesting on here how one of us thinks what we are going through is so embarrassing and we are ashamed when a it’s not us doing it and b there’s always someone else on here who has been through whatever it is.