Thats exactly how it became with coke – I would throw him out and then it was all my fault as I threw him out not him deciding to leave and his family would blame me as they didn’t know the true reason why I threw him out. Mine still drinks but he doesn’t generally get nasty on it although the weekend before last he did get angry and say I can’t control him and what he does etc etc but I think that was probably because he was craving coke.
When he says he doesn’t love you anymore and that you should part – is that the drink talking and when sober he doesn’t want that?? I am learning not to respond to his rants and walk away but occasionally I forget and it turns heated. Then I think why did I retaliate? But I guess it’s just human nature to try to defend yourself.
Thanks FNF – long may it last but I don’t think I have seen the end of this as he says that he will tell me if he does again eg when playing poker late into the night. I think that if this happens it will be the long slippery slope to using again. I have said I will accept that but in reality I don’t. Hoping that it doesn’t happen and I am absolutely going to ban any coke in the house so hopefully his son won’t bring coke and friends round to play poker.
Absolutely gorgeous day and now off to mow the lawn xx