They do that nastiness so that when you have a go at them their warped way of thinking justifies that they had to take some coke because even we are against them. They try to find an excuse. I usually just say I know what you are doing you’re trying to find an excuse to do it, and he has even at times admitted this once he realised. It’s not even conscious their sneaky brain can do it. You just have to ride through it (well if you can/want to).
