Hi Chloe,
I think we spoke before on another thread. I’m sorry to hear that your mum’s addiction isn’t any better.
I think when a person with addictions is lashing out at their loved ones, is because deep down they know they’re in the wrong and they are just deflecting it to you, to make you think you’re the one who’s wrong! Does that make sense? They’re basically pushing the blame on you when you are doing nothing except trying to help.
Have you contacted any of the support groups I suggested before? I think it’s maybe time to contact the Icarus trust or Drugfam, they support the family affected, not the person with addiction. They will give you advice and support and do not judge.
Your mum has to be the one to seek support from AA when she admits that alcohol is taking over her life.
I agree with Debc, you should confide in someone- please try Drugfam or Icarus trust.
Take care of yourself in the meantime as best you can Chloe.
Lx ❤️