hello, and here come yet another one caught up on this misery x
the good news is that your man definitely seems to want to change, and by the sounds of it has done really well until this latest relapse.
I’d say he definitely needs to be carrying on those meetings as recovery is an ongoing process that needs to be maintained every single day.
what you say about him telling you he will leave if you ask sounds like fairly typical addict behaviour… failing to take responsibility/ownership of anything, even their own feelings… hence the avoidance of dealing with feelings/life and using drugs instead.
if your guy is suffering from poor mental health it is to him to seek help from professionals. it is not our job to fix these broken individuals.
at the same time it is almost impossible to walk away from someone you love and care for, despite finding ourselves in these horrible circumstances.
we have to think long and hard about our personal boundaries, what we can or cannot tolerate, and then be ready to enforce these boundaries.
from what you say though he wants out and that can only be a good thing.
big hugs xx