As the person who started this thread I look back and see all the people who feel lost and helpless like me. I know there is no answer I can give other than to know that it is not you, it is not your child it is the drugs that are destroying everything. I read in a book that I think someone on here recommended that drug dealers are like groomers and that is so true. My daughter was given so much gear when she was so was young because in her words she was “pretty”. In my words yes she’s beautiful but she’s very manipulative and that is a word that repeats over and over again in these posts.
I cannot ever explain to anyone who hasn’t been there the pain of watching the destructive force of drug addict. I cannot explain the desire of a parent to fix it, to save them and to believe that this is the last time. My rational head tells me to be hard and that the only way is for my child to find her own way, to fall to darkest depths and hopefully, fingers crossed, wind blowing in the right direction see a light of hope of what could be.
I’m sorry there isn’t a magic answer. My daughter spirals between realising the mess she is making, to telling me she is wasting her talents to spending her money on coke, weed and alcohol.
Remember somewhere deep inside is still your child.
Claire