i didn’t reply before because my husband has been very hard work recently (no drugs, just addict type behaviour!) and then we were away for a few days.
your approach sounds similar to mine… set clear boundaries and either he sorts it our, or we’re on the next bus out of here!
i think the softly, softly approach lets them think it’s okay, but it’s such hard work and inside we’re hurting a great deal.
i wondered how you guys are getting on? x