Hi and welcome Buster
This is my life -> ‘… feel like I’m existing with a house mate who has no interest in anything much’
I’m the mum though and the father of my child (and my partner) is the addict.
So, I can’t seem to turn it round. I finally gave up trying and since then am just existing while I wait to get out. I’m waiting to be rehoused. My mental health has also nose dived. It is unbearable and I’m desperate to go.
Is it possible you could leave and take care of your children by taking them with you? I know you said she’d self harm, but at what point does she reach rock bottom? I need mine to get there. Mentally he got there twice in the past year, but because I was living with him, he was still able to get by and survive so he didn’t get help.
On his own he will either sink or swim. I can’t be responsible for him…he is making his own choice in his addiction. Your wife is too. They are not choosing their children or their partners… they are choosing the drugs. So we have to be the responsible ones and choose a normal life and the children and if they want to they can get clean and follow.