Hi Shell
That is good that you’ve spoken to Victim Support. I’m glad they were able to signpost you to some services who might be able to help you.
A lot of people don’t realise they are being abused. There are so many different types of abuse. Some of it can be quite covert, subtle and co-ercive.
Even when a person is being more obviously abused, it doesn’t necessarily make it any easier to get away from or to stop. Abusers are very good at manipulating situations to make you feel scared to leave or end a relationship.
You might want to look up Trauma Bonding and Co-dependence. It’s common to feel love for the person – especially the good side of them and the person you thought you were getting etc.