There is nothing you can do until YOU take action. Respect yourself. Realise it’s going to take strength from you.
That is going to hurt you and it will be painful.
He/she has to work it out for themselves. They won’t give a hoot at first when you either leave or ask them to leave. Infact they will probably feel free and binge crazy and won’t even think about you. They will say hurtful I sensitive words. Just ignore them. Walk away gracefully with head held high.
Just sit and watch and say (from a distance), call if your really struggling but please keep out of sight. Leave me be. Slowly it will cut away from them. They will then get as low as it needs to be to wake them up from the denial in hell they are living.
If your love is as strong as you believe – then you will be there. But my god will you become stronger and one word out of place – react and walk away again and again until they get the respect back. Let’s face it, they have lost respect for us because we have made it too easy for them. Whether they believe it or not, they will have lost respect.
It’s the process for you both. Whether that is long term who knows. What will be will be.
But my god you have to think of you because no one else will and you are responsible for your own life. You have chosen uptil now and not happy. Sad as hell, why me, what have I done. Absolutely nothing.
You didn’t cause it
You certainly cant control it
You can’t cure it
It’s hard.
Take care x