Hi Debbie, sorry to jump in but have been keeping up with your thread for some time now. And as a partner well now ex partner of someone suffering with cocaine addiction my heart goes out to you. I can’t commend you enough for how much you are fighting and holding on to hope that he will change i understand you love him. But what about you? How are you? Is all this uncertainty making you feel good? In my opinion no matter what we do they will only change if they want to, no threats or ultimatums or losses will make a blind bit of difference! I’ve found that out in the last two years. It’s also the treatment they dish out too it’s unacceptable addict or not! I’ve been like you going round and round in circles with my ex and finally had enough he kept pulling me in then pushing me away every time he used or drank. I was so mentally drained and the anxiety was unreal. I was so scared to pull away believe me, but like you i am starting to become numb, there’s only so much fighting you can do for someone that’s not fighting for themselves. Anyway hope your okay as that’s the main thing. Decide what you want to do base your happiness on you, not the outcome of a situation or what he’s doing hope that makes sense. Much love x
