Leave him to enable you get yourself some space. Don’t leave on an angry note, be calm, proud and confident – not Shouting and giving him ultimatums. You don’t want to hear those words they find no remorse in saying. This is your prescious life too. Keep a distance, ask for no contact, don’t respond. Distract yourself. This is not fair on you or anyone having to live like this. Give yourself
Space, learn and watch. See how you feel, be strong – you may surprise yourself. Either way this is toxic and doing neither of you any good and your both in ruts that are getting repeated because neither of you are doing anything but voice tit/tat. Action it instead and show you mean it. End of day, this is addiction speaking, not who they were. Your not helping them by trying to care, protect, talking. Your the enemy. Nagging is enemy that is trying to stop then feeding their addiction. xx