All addicts say the same things, treat people the same way, see us as boring and not fun to be around, start not
liking our family, lie, sometimes cheat, “this isn’t love”, look at you blah blah.
It’s an addict – they are Ill.
If you were living with someone who had dementia, would you expect them to remember everything…………
Addicts need help. You can’t do it with words.
This may be self inflicted but that stuff has pickled their brain and now they are Ill. Damaged their brain.
He has to reach bottom! But! He has to want this for himself. Nor do this for you or anyone else. Until then, you will not get this person back.
He will find a way of getting stuff. If he tries to go cold turkey on his come down, he will be just as bad as when on it.
I feel for you. I have been there with my husband. 5 years and it makes me shudder what he was capable of.
He went to rehab, and has now got the personality disorder which is common after drug taking. Having therapy and realising his actions we endured breaks his heart. He doesn’t remember most of them. I only stayed with him because I had had 22 years
previous sign him and knew he would hate the person he became. Good job I couldn’t hate him. But I was so firm in the end. Bit over my head and indifferent and ,
Ok
No Problem
Smiles with others and pleasant
Did my own thing
Theres the front door hun
Off you go,
He hated it. Whose the boring one now whilst he lay in bed after his come down. I was off enjoying my kids and family.
He is a changed man now but somewhat proud. Baffles me…….. Proud he could beat it because he knows so many that couldn’t. This is the man I knew.
I have been lucky.
He needs to see and admit and get help. That is strength
You need to step back, think if your life and watch/wait. You may wait, you may walk.
Be strong xx