just read through that Unhappy thread myself and it is very moving, and sad.
it really brings it home what a horrible situation we are all in, we’ve all got our own personal stories yet every single one of us suffers in a similar way, and it puts us in such a difficult position of trying to overcome our heartbreak and work out what to do for the best.
i hear what jamesb says, they need love and support, but unfortunately many addicts have all thatin the first place and throw it all away. he does acknowledge that sometimes you have to look to your own self-preservation and walk away. even if it’s just temporarily. it might be the shock they need, yet the countless stories on here prove that sometimes there really is no rock bottom for a great many addicts.
in the 12 steps they learn that they are suffering from a progressive illness, which leads eventually to death. it can be halted but only by the sufferer.
ash, myself and waltonfam are the *lucky ones* .. our partners have faced down their addictions. yet our hearts are still broken and we are still suffering from the outfall both internally and with children who have suffered greatly too.
it’s never easy to walk away but if there is an easy option in this life i don’t see it.
our addicts made their choices, maybe they didn’t forsee falling into addiction, but it’s somewhat bloody obvious using addictive substances regularly might not work out too well.
love does not conquer all unfortunately ????
we have to love ourselves first and foremost xx